Family Partnership

Talk with young people about their families, and notice ways that kids are supported and loved by their family members.

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What is this section about?

As a child’s first and most significant teachers, families are essential partners in helping students navigate and succeed in school, and heal from trauma. There is overwhelming evidence that meaningful school-family partnerships improve student achievement and school effectiveness regardless of income or their own educational background.

This section of the toolkit provides tools and resources to partner with parents for social, emotional, behavioral, and academic outcomes.

Community Adaptations

Working with families requires truly listening and understanding their history, values, priorities, and practices. Families are most likely to participate in spaces and schools that acknowledge their culture and contribution and expertise. Building relationships and having a mindset of true partnership with families are the starting points to this work.

What can leadership do?

Families that have experienced trauma or had negative experiences in the school can benefit from strong partnerships, increased advocacy and support. When possible and in a respectful way link families to appropriate support services and resources.

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A. Communicate the importance of family school partnerships and families’ roles in a trauma engaged school to all school staff. Having strong relationships and trust mean that families and school staff can work as a team to better support students with adverse childhood experiences and stress.
B. Bring together school staff and community to review family surveys and school climate surveys.
C. Host dialogues to better understand interests and needs and values of families.
D. Make a plan in partnership with families and school staff that includes a vision for ideal school-family partnerships to support student’s academic and social and emotional learning.
  • Consider creating a school and community calendar. Add key dates for community celebrations and events onto the school calendar and Facebook posting. Promote these gatherings so staff and families can build connections together.
E. Establish structures and processes for family partnerships. Gather input from families on curriculum design, policy, budget and training for staff related to partnering with families. Families that have experienced trauma or had negative experiences in the school can benefit most from partnerships and opportunities that they can have some control and advocacy role.
F. Design professional learning opportunities and social media outreach on family partnership, trauma engaged schools, co-regulations, and social emotional learning:

What can school staff do?

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A. Start each school year by setting goals for connecting with families. Track your goals and progress and use leadership support to measure and meet your goals.
B. Get to know and understand your students‘ families. Approach families with humility and respect and without assumptions.

Getting to know you resource for teachers to discuss with students’ support systems:

Instructions with getting to know you activities:


Ways to learn about families’ values, interests, etc.:


Regional resource list (understanding culture, history):


Tools to help understand families experiences with education:

C. Watch videos and review approaches to work more closely with families building connection, confidence, cultural safety, content, or co-regulation.

Family Partnership Framework sections:

  • Stronger Together – An Alaska developed resource to deepen understanding of family partnerships (link coming soon)

Videos highlighting approaches to family relationship building strategies:


Examples of tangible scripts.

D. Create opportunities for families to share their knowledge and build confidence, as kids first and most important teacher, especially helping families to understand co-regulation.
  • Help understand co-regulation and how much children respond to the adults around them. The video, The “Still Face” Experiment, is widely used to better understand co-regulation.

Understand regulation skills developmentally:


What can families do?

A. Identify opportunities to share knowledge about your child, community, culture.

Tools for reflections for families: information to share with school staff:

B. Learn about opportunities to support student’s learning, social and emotional learning, and co-regulation in and out of school.
  • SEL 101 for Parents
    An informational video to inform parents about SEL in schools and provide them with insights into SEL in their own parenting practices in order to support their children’s social and emotional development.
  • SEL Toolkit: Family Engagement
    Social emotional learning equips students with lifelong skills that carry on outside the classroom. Engaging families helps strengthen these skills and create opportunities for children to identify and express their emotions at home.
C. Start off the school year, building strong relationships with staff to have a solid foundation to problem-solve for student’s best outcome.
  • Teacher – share contact information (email, phone) and best times to call; call and invite parents to come in to meet and extend open invitation to call with any questions regarding student, home work, lessons.
  • Invite school staff to community events.
D. Create a group for parents to support each other in parenting, SEL skill-building, and school-related topics. Work together to bring ideas, solutions, and good practices to school leadership and staff.

Additional Resources

Coming soon.